You can’t pretend to know what’s better for others. Not even your dear ones.
And you can’t pretend others will come to you when they need something. Or express that in a way that makes what they need clear.
What you can and should do, instead, is to be aware of and vocal about what is better for you. And be adamant about it.
It might actually be so that it will help others figure out their own stuff. Or at least, if you are the person that will help or not.