To most people, empathy does not come natural. It certainly does not come natural to me. For many years, I have had the tendency to put myself at the centre of the World. Everything that happened was, to some extent, because of me. People were certainly acting in a certain way because they wanted to … Continue reading The theory of empathy
Take a step back
When you get stuck, your instinct tells you to find a way out. And so you delve deeper into what you were doing and got you stuck in the first place, you wrestle with what you don't get, tirelessly digging a path in the hope that the answer is at the end of it. You … Continue reading Take a step back
I am not here for that
When I moved to Finland seven years (and some months) ago, I did that primarily to find a better quality of life for my future family. Throughout the years, particularly during the two long periods (about 10 months at the beginning and 12 months more recently) during which I have struggled to find a job, … Continue reading I am not here for that
Sunny and rainy days
Almost everybody loves a sunny day. It is a given, something we do not spend much time thinking about. If it sunny outside, we know most people will be happy about it. Not quite as many people, though, loves a rainy day. Actually, quite a few. And if you are one of those, it is … Continue reading Sunny and rainy days
Emotions and rationality
If you are using emotional tools to address a rational problem, chances are you are going to struggle in the medium/long-term. Say you are at a meeting discussing how many new hires you need for the next project. Since you know that hiring people, onboarding and training them is a lot of work, and you'd … Continue reading Emotions and rationality
Bias
It takes mental effort to identify our own bias. Few months ago, I was putting together a presentation about Coaching and Leadership. I wanted to have one slide to stimulate some discussion, and I wanted to ask people in the audience to describe leadership with one single word. Along with the question, the slide was … Continue reading Bias
Perfect
This week, I have found this beautiful graphic depiction of how resistance works at times. It's from Ed Batista's blog (that is strongly recommended, by the way), and it displays how it is incredibly more important to move from doing nothing to doing something, than it is to move from doing something to doing something … Continue reading Perfect
