It's not what happened in our past that determines what will happen in our future. Instead, it's the stories we tell ourselves (and others) about what happened in the past that can have a profound impact on the stories we tell ourselves (and others) today and tomorrow. We build narratives to make sense of what … Continue reading It’s the stories
A shortcut
There is an old joke, I am not sure where it is originally from, but at least I am quite sure I have heard it in the series The Middle. It's about a wife, frustrated at her husband as he never shares his feelings for her. "You never say I love you", she says. "I … Continue reading A shortcut
Keep them close
It is very easy to project fear,anxiety,doubts,concerns,pressure,shortages,anger,failures on others. That's what most of us do most of the time, as a shortcut to get those things out of the way. The problem is, other people care, and relationships get increasingly challenging when projecting becomes an habit. One way to tackle this, is stop considering what … Continue reading Keep them close
Start yesterday
One of the greatest misconceptions of our days is that we can connect only when we are at our best. I am not going outside as the outfit I wear is not appropriate.I will not meet anybody as my hair have not been done yet.This is not good to publish as I look like a … Continue reading Start yesterday
Right and funny
Marketing is often about doing what is right. As in this beautiful, clear, honest page by Netflix introducing their free trial. They don't fear you won't like the service, and so they are straighforward about when the trial will end (even before you sign up). They will also let you know three days earlier, so … Continue reading Right and funny
Two steps
Why is this happening to me?Why are they doing this to me?Why is this situation so unfair (to me)? This is where most people start from. And so the first step is the step of curiosity, taking yourself out of the equation and becoming genuinely interested in what is going on. Both inside and outside … Continue reading Two steps
Voice your state
The next time we walk into a situation with a negative feeling (anxiety, fear, anger, shame, doubtfulness, sadness, preoccupation, ...), a way to unlock the impasse is to voice our state right at the beginning. I have had bad experiences before, this is way I am afraid and anxious. I don't usually do a good … Continue reading Voice your state
