Caught in the heat of an argument, the challenge is to find the lucidity to defuse. Do that while you are in a position of power, and you will have made real progress. Going head against head, second guessing, paying back, raising your voice, smashing and controlling. Those are short-lived strategies that will just feed … Continue reading Defuse
If all you give people are facts, they will take note and move on with their lives. Give them a story they can feel and relate too, and you will have their long-term attention. Give them empathy for their own story, and you will have them ready to change their behaviour.
When your focus is on self-awareness and self-understanding, there's a risk to end up feeling lonely and isolated. Partly because it's yourself you are focusing on, and partly because it is difficult to relate what we feel and think to others ("Am I the only one who feels or thinks this?"). The importance of those … Continue reading On a journey
The World is not in lack of talent or great ideas. It is in lack of commitment. Commitment to show up even when there's no one cheering. Commitment to dedicate your attention to one thing only. Commitment to pursue your purpose in face of adversity. Commitment to do the work even after a series of … Continue reading Get to it
Being in touch with oneself helps stay sane in these insane days. Knowing what's going on inside, being able to name feelings, flagging thoughts as mere thoughts (vs reality), catching signals from one's body, sharing concerns and fears with loved ones. All this is more important than being informed on the latest numbers and the … Continue reading Oneself
We all have our moments of tranquillity. It's when our breath is calm, our senses undisturbed, our mind dreamy, our body unshaken. In such moments, nothing bad can happen to us, and all the stories we tell ourselves are leading exactly where we want to go. Of course, moments of tranquillity are volatile. Just make … Continue reading Moments of tranquillity
We are all facing an unprecedented situation, unrealistic expectations and an (even more than usual) uncertain future. Let's be kind with ourselves and each other, because things are very likely to not be ok for a while. That's fine, let's do our best.