We all go through the same shit. That does not mean our pain, despair, fights, passions are all the same, indistinct reasons why we feel miserable. It means that most likely others can relate to it. Can understand. Can empathize. And it also means that we are not alone, not in our suffering. So, the … Continue reading Shit
Understanding what is happening within has one sole purpose. Gentleness. When it becomes clear where your actions and reactions come from, what's behind the patterns you keep falling in, why it is so difficult to be a certain way and do a certain thing. Then you can relax. That is not the same as giving … Continue reading Gentleness
An important reminder by Bernadette Jiwa. If you want to be listened, begin with listening. If you want to be heard, begin with hearing. If you want to lead, begin with opening to the people you want to lead. If you want to sell something, begin with understanding the people you want to sell to. … Continue reading Begin with listening
We commonly believe that empathy is for the person on the receiving end. And that is, at least in part, true. It gives them the space to be with their feelings, thoughts, discomfort, free of the burden of judgement and scrutiny. We need to be aware that empathy is not for the person on the … Continue reading Who is empathy for?
A while back, I have written about empathy and about how it is not something that comes natural to most people (me included). But what does empathy look like in practice? It is certainly not to feel sorrow for someone's issues. When we do, we tend to approach the relationship from a position of strength, … Continue reading The practice of empathy
To most people, empathy does not come natural. It certainly does not come natural to me. For many years, I have had the tendency to put myself at the centre of the World. Everything that happened was, to some extent, because of me. People were certainly acting in a certain way because they wanted to … Continue reading The theory of empathy