It is extremely important to dedicate time to intentionally define success. And while doing that, you have to consider the difference between success that is dependent on your own actions and success that is dependent on others' actions or environmental circumstances. An example. Say you want to write a blog post a week for the … Continue reading The primary driver
Category: self-help
To your advantage
There is one absolute truth. And that truth is that no one is ever going to care as much as you do. No one is going to care about how brilliant you are. And you ARE brilliant. But no one is going to care. Of course, that can change if you put your brilliance at … Continue reading To your advantage
Use what you want to run from
Your boss who seems so confident is afraid too. The colleague who has always something relevant to share is anxious too. That speaker you love for the way they thrill the audience is nervous too. The successful entrepreneur you are reading about is worried too. The point is not making fear, anxiety, and the like … Continue reading Use what you want to run from
Discipline and compassion
I love how this article by Brad Stulberg sums up many of my thoughts and beliefs around practice and awareness. The relationship between self-discipline and self-compassion is reciprocal. One feeds the other and we need to find a way to keep them in balance. It's the only way to avoid getting stuck. It's the only … Continue reading Discipline and compassion
Doing is boring
Doing is boring. It comes after the excitement of ideation and brainstorming. It is way ahead of the sparkles and glitters of reveal and success. It is repetitive, often solitary, unsung, at times painful, mostly bland. And that is precisely why many fail at it. Showing up day after day to merely do is a … Continue reading Doing is boring
All the time
We will act fairly. Once this bad period is over. As soon as we have launched this very important new service. When the new manager will be up to speed. If only we would win this next bet. The fact is, integrity does not allow conditions. You are either fair, or you are not. And … Continue reading All the time
Existential threat
When failure knocks at your door, you have to greet it, invite it in, make it feel comfortable, and eventually ask it to move in. Failure needs to be absorbed, somehow, in order for the learnings to become a part of you, to make you better, to prevent it from happening again. If you deny … Continue reading Existential threat
Just stick with it
At the end of the day, all you can control is what you do. And all you can do is to behave in such a way that aligns with your core values, with what you want to achieve, with everything that matters. Of course, this is something you have to figure out. The sooner, the … Continue reading Just stick with it
Protect or build
You can protect your name, your reputation, your prestige. Or you can build it. Rarely you can do both at the same time. Protecting is about public relations, networking, promising, giving speeches. It is a reactive game. It is about ensuring that what you do determines who you are, how others see you. It is … Continue reading Protect or build
Be dumb
When you ask dumb questions, people get often irritated and dismissive. But if you explain that you are asking simply because you do not genuinely know, they are usually happy to help. They can also go great lengths to make it click for you. There are benefits in taking a dumb approach to things, new … Continue reading Be dumb
