Despite common belief, patience is not a passive quality. Patience means being committed. Devotion and dedication are necessary to stay in a situation long enough, to make the uncomfortable feel comfortable, to push away the instict of moving on to something else that might look more appealing in the moment. A patient person might look … Continue reading Patience
Category: self-help
Recognition
There's incredible value in emancipating from the need of recognition. We all want our work to be acknowledged, appreciated, rewarded. And yet, when doing that, we shift the focus of the work itself on something that is beyond our control. We set ourselves up for failure. Others often do not praise our efforts and results, … Continue reading Recognition
Tasks you don’t like
The way you deal with a task you don't want to do greatly defines how you approach change. You can refuse to do it, as you don't want. Set out to seek another task, another job, another purpose. And yet, despite the continuos search, you favour the status quo. Your status quo. No big changes … Continue reading Tasks you don’t like
What matters
It's normal to want to please others. It's naive to try to please everybody. Eventually, you'll have to say some nos, whether you'll do that explicitly or implicitly. The different commitments you have taken are going to clash with one another, and at least a bunch of them are going to be left behind. Your … Continue reading What matters
In corpore sano
I am a lazy person, and I have so far failed at taking care of my body. Despite being very active in my teens and early twenties, I have basically refrained from doing any type of regular physical activity in the past fifteen years. This year, I have decided that I am also going to … Continue reading In corpore sano
Just a small part
When faced with bad news, there's a natural reaction that almost automatically kicks in. It's about making the bad news the totality of our reality. We feel discomfort, pain, despair, because we have just been told that something does not conform to the idea(s) we had about our life. And we often take this to … Continue reading Just a small part
Feeling in charge
I have done some of my best job under pressure and deadlines. Thing is, that pressure, those deadlines, they were not imposed from the outside. They were consequences of me feeling responsible for a project, a document, a team, a deliverable. If you impose pressure and deadlines, particularly when you do not share clear reasoning … Continue reading Feeling in charge
