A bunch of random thoughts, further reflecting on my story as an expat job seeker in Finland. When you are in a new situation, use where you've been to fuel the journey ahead, not as a reminder of the journey it could have been. People need somebody who believes in them, and while you are … Continue reading Few thoughts
Category: self-help
Strength
Next time, try this. "I am sorry, my mistake, I could have ... . Let's move on." It works beautifully in any situation in which there's friction. It unlocks empathy (most likely you'll get a "no worries" from the other side), and it allows the conversation to move forward. It's better than blaming the alarm … Continue reading Strength
Cut
When you are short on money. When you are depleted. When you simply have too much to do. When there's an emergency. When your plans are at risk. What do you cut? A couple of things to consider. Be in a position in which what you cut is up to you, as much as possible. … Continue reading Cut
Stay present
If you get to a point where you decide to quit, for any reason. Or you are in a situation where you are asked to quit. Or you get rejected over and over again. What are you going to do? It's very natural to want to burn down bridges, move to the mountains, and dedicate … Continue reading Stay present
Alone
The problem with attacking those who don't see the world as you do, with fostering an environment where outrage is rewarded, with speaking against those on your side who attempt to be moderate, with listening to others in wait for misstep, with glorifying factions and vilifying commonalities. The problem with all of this is that … Continue reading Alone
Comfort and necessity
If you treat comfort as if it were necessity, you'll soon run out of steam in the pursue of it. Comfort is unlimited, constantly temporary, almost always divisive. It is easy to forget and very difficult to reverse. Not impossible, but if you've ever moved from a 100 square metres apartment to a 60 square … Continue reading Comfort and necessity
Deep roots
The disappointment you felt when they told you there was no promotion for you in the near future. The anger at your boss, for not acknowledging the effort you put into the project they are getting praises for. That argument about who was supposed to do that thing nobody wants to do. The feeling your … Continue reading Deep roots
