Who is speaking up in support of the change you seek to make? If it is always, only you, you most likely have one of two problems. Problem number 1: you are seeking the wrong change. There is nothing to change, everything works just fine. Or there is something to change, just not what you … Continue reading Not permanent
Category: self-help
Advantage
A twist on the 99% idea is that the vast majority of people (say 99%) - or even better, the totality of people in the 99% of cases - will not act on the information they are given or on the knowledge they are accumulating. They will just keep falling back to hold habits and … Continue reading Advantage
Warnings
There is always a warning. There is always a sign. You should be prepared, and yet you are not. Partly because it is easier to think at life as a straight, uninterrupted line. Partly because most warnings are encrypted, unclear, have mixed words, and it is only easy to spot them afterwards. And so, when … Continue reading Warnings
Keep at it
The months we are living are a challenge. And even those who are lucky enough to still have job, to have a house, a supportive family, food on their table every day, more comfort than the vast majority of the world population. They too are struggling. We live now in a prolonged liminal phase and … Continue reading Keep at it
Today and tomorrow
Success is about aligning the actions of today to the desired outcomes of tomorrow. This is where most of us fail. Because the short-term adrenaline rush, the immediate reward, is very attractive when compared to something that might (or not) come at some point in the future. And what if when we are there we … Continue reading Today and tomorrow
Things done right
The moment we think: "if you want things done right, do it yourself". That is the moment things actually stop being done. No matter the level we reach in our career, we are not responsible for everything and we are not capable of doing everything. The illusion that telling others what needs to be done … Continue reading Things done right
Dangers and threats
We are constantly scanning our environment for dangers and threats. And we end up seeing dangers and threats pretty much everywhere. Even when an actual danger or threat is not there, or is still just a hint of what might later become a danger or threat. The wisest way one can spend their time is … Continue reading Dangers and threats
Overwhelmed
What is your tactic when you fell overwhelmed? Those moments when you cannot think clear, you have tens of forces from different places pushing on your skulls, and the amygdala is about to take control with your favourite version of fight, flight or freeze? Moments like that happen many times throughout the days, and it … Continue reading Overwhelmed
Merely
Acceptance is not about understanding and appreciating that the world (your friends, acquaintances, family, colleagues, your context, your work, your environment, your company) is wrong, and then spending your life complaining, regretting, plotting. Acceptance is about understanding and appreciating that the world merely is. What is around you does not change, it is the degree … Continue reading Merely
Bold
If you have to be bold about one thing in life, be bold about picking yourself. The time of waiting for others to pick us is over. Bosses, teachers, examiners, recruiters are nowadays just as powerful as we let them. Be the one to pick yourself instead. To do what you are passionate about. To … Continue reading Bold
