Work leaks into your personal life, news and preoccupations leak into your personal life, continuous demands of attention leak into your personal life. And to some extent, that is fine. At some point though, that becomes untenable, and that is precisely what you need to be aware of. When does that happen? How does that … Continue reading Leaking
Category: self-help
Stand out
The faster way for you to build a story is to record what you do. Do it daily and consistently, and after a while, as you look back, you will find threads that already are the seed of a narrative. Put them together, water them, double down on recording, and you have everything you need … Continue reading Stand out
Agent or spectator
The fact with difficult conversations is that you can delay them, but you cannot delay the negative effects of the situation that made them necessary in the first place. If a colleague is under performing and you have to pick up their slack, silence will not improve things. If your boss is not giving you … Continue reading Agent or spectator
Tired
As a general rule, writing less rather than more is a wise decision. And when you are tired, writing less rather than more should be an imperative. When you are tired, ideas gets fuzzy, reasoning falters, words get mixed up. Adding another sentence, another paragraph, another page will not make your argument stronger. Of course, … Continue reading Tired
Hard work
Hard work, they say, will lead you to success. But hard work is not working 14 hours a day, weekends included, allowing yourself little sleep, few acquaintances, overworking your team members, writing three paragraphs when one would be enough, replying to all incoming emails within minutes, taking more tasks than you can handle because a … Continue reading Hard work
Getting past
Life is not about avoiding problems, for the simple reason that problems, challenges, difficulties are an intrinsic part of life itself. Life is more about identifying problems and finding the courage to stand right in front of them saying: "I will get past you". And it is true both for the problems that surround us … Continue reading Getting past
Easy
Just because something is easy, it does not mean it should not matter. Easy has a tendency to go unnoticed, to not be motivating enough, to be left out of curricula, cover letters and history, to be frowned upon, to be looked at with skepticism, to be considered as something anyone can do, to be … Continue reading Easy
Straight line
When you look at success narrowly, you are pretty much stuck on a single, straight line. It might be that achieving prestige, power, wealth is indeed your definition of success. That making as much money as possible is what drives you, what makes you feel good, your purpose in life. But it might as well … Continue reading Straight line
Nothing wrong
I did nothing wrong. Defensiveness is often the go-to strategy when we are put on the spot. In all honesty, though, we would be more accurate saying I did mean nothing wrong, or even better My intentions were in the right place. When somebody negatively reacts to something we did or said, something clicks in … Continue reading Nothing wrong
It does not matter
There are always countless reasons to drop a practice. A bad day. The shouting with your partner the night before. Laziness. Your boss just drops trivial tasks on your desk. Friends never call. That asshole just cut me off. Nobody is ever interested in what I do. It is always raining and the weather is … Continue reading It does not matter
