Not everything that you like, that you want to do, that seems interesting, that you are committed to, comes easily. Sometimes the pursue of that thing means you get stuck in other aspects of your life, simply because you are left with no energy for them.
And so, it might be a good idea to put that thing on hold, to wait for a better time, to progress on other fronts. There’s nothing worst than achieving something when knowing that all the rest has been left behind.
It typically means that they will find it challenging to establish relationships based on trust, particularly with direct reports.
And it’s not because what they say is not true. It might indeed be that they expect a lot of themselves, that they are never happy with what they achieve, that they always strive for more.
But they then extend the same expectations on others. They assume that just because others don’t feel the same pressure, don’t adhere to the same standards, don’t agree with the same critiques, it means they are not as committed, as motivated, as performing.
It’s easy to care when you control everything. It’s also easy to give up responsibilities when you are no longer committed. But the most difficult thing to learn to be a good parent, or a good leader, is the ability to let go of control while still continuing to care deeply.