How would you like others to treat you? If you are having a bad day, and still need to go out to buy some groceries. You just grab the first clothes you can find and don't worry about your hair. What would you like others to say? If you are having a tough period, and … Continue reading What we'd like
We are much more likely to show empathy to people who are not regularly in our life. That's because our partners, colleagues, bosses, friends, acquaintances, parents, kids at some point become characters in the stories we build. Stories that have two interesting attributes. First, they are unnecessarily brutal in representing our situation. We make our … Continue reading Two attributes of stories
Never act on every single piece of feedback. And be aware that not acting on feedback is a strong signal you are sending. What are you going to say when asked about it? Option number one. "I forgot". It can certainly happen, and what you are basically saying is that the relationship with the person … Continue reading Not acting on feedback
You don't need another article that tells you how to get what you want to get, no other "how-to" or "five steps" guides to determine what you are going to do today. All you need is a starting point and a destination. In between is the journey. Let it be your own story.
We are stuck in patterns. We do the same things over and over again. React to the same things in the same way. Behave the same way with the very same person. Think the same thoughts, feel the same feelings, fall into the same narratives. We do this until it becomes our reality, who we … Continue reading The same
In December 1997, Los Angeles Lakers played the Bulls in Chicago. Many consider that the first real face-off between Kobe Bryant (who had been drafted the year before) and Michael Jordan (who had already won five championships). During a break in the game, Bryant is close to Jordan. Bryant grew up watching Jordan play, he's … Continue reading Mentor
You are never the best judge of your own work. You cannot be. Sometimes it is because of sunk costs, other times because of laziness, more often than not simply because your perspective is narrow, as it takes an incredible effort to see the world as others might. And so, we are often in tension … Continue reading Tension breaks down