If you ask for help, the worst thing that could happen is that the person or the group you are asking to will not be receptive and you will not get any help. Your situation does not really get any worse. It's the same as having money to invest with only the potential gain to … Continue reading When asking for help
We all go through the same shit. That does not mean our pain, despair, fights, passions are all the same, indistinct reasons why we feel miserable. It means that most likely others can relate to it. Can understand. Can empathize. And it also means that we are not alone, not in our suffering. So, the … Continue reading Shit
Understanding what is happening within has one sole purpose. Gentleness. When it becomes clear where your actions and reactions come from, what's behind the patterns you keep falling in, why it is so difficult to be a certain way and do a certain thing. Then you can relax. That is not the same as giving … Continue reading Gentleness
How much do you have to insist before your customers say "yes"? https://youtu.be/s_E0CR01laQ My bank sends me a text every day to tell me there's a message for me in eServices, regarding changes to Terms and Conditions. I should go there, read it and approve it. I still haven't done that. Facebook sends me daily … Continue reading Will you take us to Mount Splashmore?
An important reminder by Bernadette Jiwa. If you want to be listened, begin with listening. If you want to be heard, begin with hearing. If you want to lead, begin with opening to the people you want to lead. If you want to sell something, begin with understanding the people you want to sell to. … Continue reading Begin with listening
The first time I was in a leadership role, I struggled very much to understand the unwanted consequences of what a leader says and does. The illusion is often that you can still behave like a peer, or a friend. Yet people will look for direction, not for jokes. They will look for reassurance, not … Continue reading The illusion
There's a fairly common practice in growing start-ups. When the headcount ramps up and a more complicated structure is needed, the natural tendency is to promote founders or early stage employees into managerial roles. This happens only marginally because people making or vetting the decision believe those employees are the best for the job. Most … Continue reading Growing managers