It is extremely important to dedicate time to intentionally define success. And while doing that, you have to consider the difference between success that is dependent on your own actions and success that is dependent on others' actions or environmental circumstances. An example. Say you want to write a blog post a week for the … Continue reading The primary driver
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To your advantage
There is one absolute truth. And that truth is that no one is ever going to care as much as you do. No one is going to care about how brilliant you are. And you ARE brilliant. But no one is going to care. Of course, that can change if you put your brilliance at … Continue reading To your advantage
Use what you want to run from
Your boss who seems so confident is afraid too. The colleague who has always something relevant to share is anxious too. That speaker you love for the way they thrill the audience is nervous too. The successful entrepreneur you are reading about is worried too. The point is not making fear, anxiety, and the like … Continue reading Use what you want to run from
To mentor
You do not have to be a master to mentor. You do not have to be the best at what you do, neither you need to be an expert in what you do. You might have a passion, but that is just a like most of the time. You might feel competent and knowledgeable, but … Continue reading To mentor
Bad bosses
Do employees quit bad bosses? As a matter of fact, they do. And they do quit organizations that provide inadequate training and promotional opportunities, bonuses, and non-cash benefits, that foster (willingly or unwillingly) a negative climate, that assign insignificant tasks, or repetitive tasks, that do not leave enough autonomy, that do not give enough support. … Continue reading Bad bosses
Discipline and compassion
I love how this article by Brad Stulberg sums up many of my thoughts and beliefs around practice and awareness. The relationship between self-discipline and self-compassion is reciprocal. One feeds the other and we need to find a way to keep them in balance. It's the only way to avoid getting stuck. It's the only … Continue reading Discipline and compassion
I agree, but
We have heard that agreeing with people is a way to defuse conflict. And we have taken it so far that the words I agree are two of the most used in companies. Of course, they are mostly misused. They are often an easy way to gain some short-term sympathy, to prime the others to … Continue reading I agree, but
Engagement
If you are in a position of power, it is important for you to acknowledge that any one of your actions that suggests external causality (i.e. if you do this, I will make this happen) is going to reduce both intrinsic motivation (i.e. the tendency to seek challenges, to use curiosity, to learn) and the … Continue reading Engagement
Stepping stone
I am sorry does not heal the wound. It does not solve the problem, it does not undo what was done, it does not wipe out an unpleasant memory. I am sorry is not a wand to wave at distressing situations. It does not draw a plan for the future and it does not promise … Continue reading Stepping stone
The greatest gift
If there is only one thing you are going to dedicate more time to in the future, make it be listening. Do not rush to tell your piece, learn to sit still with your assumptions and conclusions, give others the space to come up with their own version, accept that silence is not you giving … Continue reading The greatest gift
