What is joy?
What is commitment?
What is love?
What is friendship?
You can take these questions from the top-down. You take a definition – the one your parents gave you, the one your culture preaches, the one your past taught you – and you try to find what it is that take you as close to it as possible. As these are ideals, it’s difficult to seek them and make them real. It’s usually disappointing.
You can also take these questions from the bottom-up. You look at your life – what is given to you, what you are taking with your skills and attitude, what you give out to others – and label the individual items with the term that best fits.
You say, “this is joy” after a genuine laugh. And you seek more of it.
You say, “this is commitment” after some hard work. And you seek more of it.
You say, “this is love” after holding your partner in an intimate embrace. And you seek more of it.
You say, “this is friendship” after a 2-hour chat with your heart wide open. And you seek more of it.
This is it.
You are dealt some cards and it’s up to you to make of them whatever you pursuit. Change will follow, and it begins with you noticing that you already have the ideal life.