The impulse to control, dictate, micro-manage is strong.
We just have to think carefully at what happens when we do it.
Example: a colleague is planning to send out an important email. You submit to the impulse and ask to review it first. The colleague obliges and shares a draft with you. You once again submit to the impulse and, since you do not really have time for this, give them some broad feedback about tone of voice and points to make. They edit the draft and send it back. For the third time, you submit to the impulse and go deep with comments, edits, and formatting. They end up sending your version.
- You are exhausted and you have lost the chance to focus on something that was truly your responsibility.
- They are demotivated, because they are probably good to write an email on their own.
- The outcome is most likely not going to be what either of you expected, adding to exhaustion and demotivation.
That is a lot of negativity spread around just because you once sent out an email that – in that particular context – turned out to get a pretty positive response.