Tag: fear

Overwhelmed

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What is your tactic when you fell overwhelmed?

Those moments when you cannot think clear, you have tens of forces from different places pushing on your skulls, and the amygdala is about to take control with your favourite version of fight, flight or freeze?

Moments like that happen many times throughout the days, and it is often enough to take a few deep breaths to get back on track. Ideally, you might take a full 5-minutes break to unplug. But that is not always possible, and so just breathing in and out for 4-5 consecutive times, focusing on the breath itself or on your belly going up and down, can do magic.

Give it a try.

Bold

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If you have to be bold about one thing in life, be bold about picking yourself.

The time of waiting for others to pick us is over. Bosses, teachers, examiners, recruiters are nowadays just as powerful as we let them.

Be the one to pick yourself instead.

To do what you are passionate about. To do it consistently. To do it in line with your values. To do it for the rewards you decide matter. To do it wherever, and for whomever, you choose to do it.

It is scary, and it is powerful.

Let’s go.

What is holding you back?

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Your boss is not appreciating your work as they should.

That colleague of yours never invites you to important meetings.

Your family does not grant you enough time to cultivate your passion.

The company you want to work for did not answer your application.

Recruiters in your area are simply looking for a different profile.

Customers do not get what your product can do for them.

They probably are.

But the point is, what can you do to change that?

Do you have a problem with authority you can work on? Do you struggle to build relationships with peers? Can you have a conversation with your family to explain why your passion matters to you? Are there skills or holes in your experience that prevent you from being called back when you apply to jobs? Can you do a better job at understanding the people you serve?

Blaming it on the others is an easy escape, one that often gets us stuck. So, what is truly holding you back?

Fear, anger, pain

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Fear, anger, pain. In certain cases, they can start an action. Yet, you need to leave them behind as soon as your action crystallizes and takes a concrete shape.

If you fail to do it, you’ll soon find yourself projecting that initial, important emotion on every body and every thing around you. You will burn down bridges, forgo opportunities, isolate in your own narrative.

Remember fear, anger and pain, but leave them behind as soon as you can.

The change you are seeking demands it.

Let go

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To be a leader, in life and at work, you need to let go.

Let go of schedules and outcomes, experience and opinions, details and plans. Let go of control. Let go of yourself. Let go of your definition of reality. Let go of your certainties.

If you cling to any of these, being a leader is going to be much more difficult. And eventually you will be the one regretting it the most.