Tag: empowerment

Empty shells

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Have you ever written down a list of the things you do?

Particularly when you feel overwhelmed, it is useful to write down on paper the things you do regularly. Emails to write, reports to compile, meetings to attend, errands to run, people to talk to, tasks to complete, projects to finalize, and so on.

Then look at the list and ask yourself: what can I delegate?

Sure, the first instinct would probably be to say nothing! But if you think long enough, if you weight the items against your purpose and who you want to be, if you ask others what they expect of you and what they will measure you by, I am confident you will end up with quite a lot you can give away.

Most of the things you do are clutter. They give you the impression of being important, and by extension they make you feel important, but they are merely empty shells very difficult to crack. And the wonderful thing is that if you trust others and ask around, if you become generous, you will find somebody for whom those things are relevant, important, purposeful.

Make the match.

Most of us are so stuck on the short-cycles of urgency that it’s difficult to even imagine changing our longer-term systems.

Amazingly, this simple non-hack (in which you spend the time to actually avoid the shortcuts that have been holding you back) might be the single most effective work you do all year.

Seth Godin, A different urgency

Follow your passion

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Sure, but how do you go about finding your passion?

It is not something innate, something you have inside and need to get out, something you have to dig deeper and deeper to reveal.

Passion gets built.

It is about doing, and doing, and doing some more. It is about getting better at what you do, master your area, connect with others that do the same, share and grow. And it is about ensuring that what you do and excel at aligns with who you are, with the narrative you want to promote about yourself as a human being.

Follow your passion is a great advice, once you know what your passion is. And to get to that, you need to be ready to not give up when things get tough, to not withdraw in front of adversity and challenges, to not change course every time something new and potentially brighter shines on the horizon.

Are you ready for that?

Building on success

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A weird year ends tomorrow, and many will think at some kind of resolutions for 2021. I want to share (again) few tips that have helped me stick with my resolutions throughout the twelve months in the past few years.

And one more important thing.

If you have recently developed a habit you are proud of, double down on it in 2021.

If you have meditated 10 minutes every day, make it 20 minutes in 2021.

If you have dedicated 2 hours a week to writing that novel, make it 4 hours in 2021.

If you have successfully delivered 5 blog posts a month, make it 10 in 2021.

If you have landed 4 speaking gigs, make it 8 in 2021.

You do not have to reinvent the wheel every year, just continue on the journey. Building on success is a sure way to continue being successful.

Insurmountable

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Nothing is easy, until it gets done.

At that point, it becomes the easiest thing you ever committed to.

That is because starting something new feels insurmountable. It makes us go against our beliefs (about ourselves and the world we live in), it forces us to question things we used to take for granted, it puts us in front of the fact we might have been wrong all along.

It is also the reason why there is rarely a deep connection between someone who has already done and someone who is about to do. To the former, the thing is trivial. To the latter, the thing is impossible.

So, if we ever want to share anything, it is important we talk about the journey rather than the destination. It’s the only way to build common ground, to put empathy at work, to elevate.

And if we want to do something, as we often do, the best way is to set out on the journey and just do it.

The game

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You can still play the game even if you don’t know how to play it, if you do not follow the rules, if you cheat and seek shortcuts, if nobody wants to play with you.

Of course, your time would be better invested in figuring out what to do and doing it right, consistently and over time.

At the end of the day, the choice is yours.