When you feel uncomfortable, the first immediate reaction is to point the finger and fix something outside of your reach. You might yell, give clearer instructions, take ownership, write a negative review, demote, reject, shut down.

But of course, that works (for you, perhaps) only until the feeling is back – for the same reason, or a different one.

And so, a better approach is to ask: What is this? Where does it come from? What can I do to make the feeling bother me less? (vs. What can I do to make the feeling go away? – which often leads to one of the reactions above.)

You might even end up getting rid of the feeling altogether, but that is not the point.

The point is being with, letting go, accepting.

Because, in the end, it’s not that bad.