Tag: self-improvement

Your game

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You choose the rules of your game.

You choose where to start from, what is allowed and what not, what winning looks like, and which other players are in the same game.

This is not an easy task, and that is the reason why many of us play someone else’s game.

It is not an easy task, but when you are done, you stick to it. You do not change the basics every time things get tough, you do not go against the rules to get an easy win, you do not kick out players because they are getting better at it.

Make it a fair, long term game. You will win.

Attached

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We get attached to things, and that hurts the most.

We get attached to things that bear no real weight in our lives. Winning or losing an argument will not make us a better human being. Getting promoted or not will not make us a better worker. A higher or a lower salary will often not change our lifestyle that much. The new idea we have failed to promote and develop will not make of us a failure.

We get attached to things, and we should just let go.

That is when a wealth of possibilities will unfold.

Putting off

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When you put off something repeatedly over a period of time, you should face the fact that it is never going to happen. And so, you should either delegate that or remove it entirely from your schedule.

Every other action you are taking (marking as unread, moving to tomorrow, making a post-it, setting a reminder on your phone) is just additional clutter.

That thing is not important to you.

Get over it.

The way forward

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When in doubt take a step back, give support, be generous, help.

Building barricades and having it your way might give you a temporary sense of control, the feeling you are about to win. It is very rarely the case.

Kindness is the only way forward.

Outcomes

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We do most things because we expect an outcome.

But we have this wrong, in that it is not the outcome that defines the things we do.

If we write a blog post, and nobody reads it, likes it, shares it, we still have a blog post. There is nothing different in the work we have put in, in the tools we have used, in the practices we have followed, in the experience we have made. The act of writing the blog post, and the blog post itself, is not enriched (or impoverished) by the number of visitors it gets (or it fails to get).

And so, a smart first step when you choose you want to ship, is to free yourself from the trap that is the outcome. That is the only way to do with consistency, even when no one is watching, to make of doing a practice that sustains your motivation, your creativity, your purpose.

Outcomes are volatile. Doing has the power to be forever.