You choose the rules of your game.
You choose where to start from, what is allowed and what not, what winning looks like, and which other players are in the same game.
This is not an easy task, and that is the reason why many of us play someone else’s game.
It is not an easy task, but when you are done, you stick to it. You do not change the basics every time things get tough, you do not go against the rules to get an easy win, you do not kick out players because they are getting better at it.
Make it a fair, long term game. You will win.