Tag: self-improvement

Follow your passion

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Sure, but how do you go about finding your passion?

It is not something innate, something you have inside and need to get out, something you have to dig deeper and deeper to reveal.

Passion gets built.

It is about doing, and doing, and doing some more. It is about getting better at what you do, master your area, connect with others that do the same, share and grow. And it is about ensuring that what you do and excel at aligns with who you are, with the narrative you want to promote about yourself as a human being.

Follow your passion is a great advice, once you know what your passion is. And to get to that, you need to be ready to not give up when things get tough, to not withdraw in front of adversity and challenges, to not change course every time something new and potentially brighter shines on the horizon.

Are you ready for that?

Building on success

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A weird year ends tomorrow, and many will think at some kind of resolutions for 2021. I want to share (again) few tips that have helped me stick with my resolutions throughout the twelve months in the past few years.

And one more important thing.

If you have recently developed a habit you are proud of, double down on it in 2021.

If you have meditated 10 minutes every day, make it 20 minutes in 2021.

If you have dedicated 2 hours a week to writing that novel, make it 4 hours in 2021.

If you have successfully delivered 5 blog posts a month, make it 10 in 2021.

If you have landed 4 speaking gigs, make it 8 in 2021.

You do not have to reinvent the wheel every year, just continue on the journey. Building on success is a sure way to continue being successful.

The game

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You can still play the game even if you don’t know how to play it, if you do not follow the rules, if you cheat and seek shortcuts, if nobody wants to play with you.

Of course, your time would be better invested in figuring out what to do and doing it right, consistently and over time.

At the end of the day, the choice is yours.

Kindness

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Kindness starts from understanding that we are not alone.

That despite our uniqueness, the pain we feel, the challenges we face, the preoccupations that keep our mind busy are common.

That what we are going through is the reflection of what our neighbour has lived for the past six months.

That the person who does not reply to our message is not having a better day.

That it is difficult for our partner to figure us out, just as it is difficult for us to figure them out.

Kindness is an act directed at ourselves first.

Kindness is for every day of the year.

Merry Christmas!

P.S.: I have not read many books this year, but one I enjoyed is Storynomics, by Robert McKee and Thomas Gerace. I am giving away 5 Kindle copies of the book, to the first 5 people who leave a comment to this post and share one thing they got from my blog.

You stay

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When you are in a bad mood, your productivity goes down. The quality of your work is not as good as usual, even getting started feels painful. You are cranky, you put negative narratives first, you fail to appreciate what good there is.

Being in a bad mood also poisons everything around you. And most importantly, it makes people in your life be in a bad mood to.

There is no remedy to being in a bad mood. It just happens.

The only sensible thing to do is put all the residual resources into breaking the direct link between the mood and yourself. Indeed, often when you are in a bad mood, you look at yourself as a bad person too. That’s dangerous.

Moods come and go. You stay, often improved. If you can appreciate this difference more, nothing will stop you.

To meet an emotion is first to acknowledge it and then to feel it enough to get the message it carries. The feeling carries the message but it isn’t the message, and we won’t get the message without feeling at least some of the emotion. The message, of course, is very likely to be a form of emerging self-knowledge.

Dan Oestreich, How To Meet A Strong Emotion