One of the biggest and most painful mistakes you can make is to believe it is about you.
Things happen all the time, people have thoughts and feelings that make them behave one way or the other, words are said and opinions expressed more than we can appreciate. And it is not about you.
Making it personal is the opposite of committing. It is a way to hide, to postpone, to not do.
It is also a strong instict, as each one of us is the main character to their own story.
Just keep it under control.
Languishing is very real. And the best place you can start from is to acknowledge it is.
You might not yet be able to get out of this state, this weird absence of mental health, but self-awareness is always the first step towards something better.
Doing (without interruption) and connecting (with the intent to share) are great second steps, whenever you are ready.
Do something because you want to try.
Because you want to start a new habit, because it is a thing you might like, because you know that somebody will feel better. Do something because you are running out of time or because you have too much time on your hands. Do it because it makes sense, because it is the right thing to do, because you know you can handle it. Or perhaps to test yourself, to stretch your skills and build new muscles. Do something when you have nothing to do, when you have too much to do, when you feel down, and when you feel energetic.
But never do because you expect someone to do something in return.
That’s just not how it works.
Feeling ineffective is very different from feeling worthless.
Being down is not the same as being miserable.
If someone irritates us, it’s not the same as if they would enrage us.
When we feel regret for a situation, that does not make the situation humiliating.
Language is made of shades. And when it comes to emotions, in particular, being able to verbalize the different levels of intensity can make the difference between seeing options and getting lost.
We can get better at expressing how we feel, and this vocabulary of emotions by Ed Batista is a fantastic tool for that.
How are you feeling today?
Changing the way you see the world is not a sign of weakness.
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