Some good ways to practice that.
- Ask yourself why you think a certain way, how you could be wrong, what alternative explanations might there be.
- Think in shades of gray rather than in black and white – it is easier to update your beliefs incrementally, it is more difficult to completely change your mind.
- Prepare to kill your beliefs by decatastrophizing – asking what is the worst thing that could happen? has the power to bring catastrophic outcomes down to earth.
- Make time to consider other people’s perspective (before a meeting, before a talk, before a difficult conversation).
And, contrary to common belief, you will not give up autonomy and self-determination.
Autonomy doesn’t mean reflexively resisting all external influences. That would be impossible, not to mention foolish. It means taking actions that “are both personally valued and well synthesized with the totality of one’s values and beliefs” regardless of who suggests those actions.Al Pittampalli, Persuadable