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The beast

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How much of the past are you taking into today?

Will you be saying ‘hello’ to the person who rejected you years ago, calling now with a new opportunity?

Will you be asking ‘what’s next?’ when a friend you have not talked to in years will want to patch things up?

Will you be open to take that chance, despite having failed it before in similar circumstances?

If we can label what’s going on, look the beast in the eyes, move past regrets, judgement and might-have-beens, our day will be much lighter.

There’s no need to overcomplicate things with burdens that serve no purpose in our life.

Precaution and preoccupation

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In certain circumstances, when much is at stake, when it’s a matter of life or death, when you are trying to contain a problem that could have grim repercussion, overreacting can be the right choice. It’s about protecting something that is dear, and it is ok to be overly precautious.

Being preoccupied, on the other hand, is rarely the better thing to do. It’s a distraction to keep us busy, a way to delay important decisions, a focus that engulfs our mind and that we do not need.

Precaution is action that keeps the problem at bay. Preoccupation is debate that makes the problem big enough so that nothing else exists.

Precaution is (it should be) the language of governments, authority, leadership. Preoccupation is the language of media, populism and masses.

Choose carefully which one to utilize as you go about this difficult time.

Harsh

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The harshness of your ways is merely fear and pain.

Fear of something that might happen, of something that might repeat itself, of losing control, of being subject to judgement, of not meeting others’ expectations, of being hurt, of having to face the unknown.

Pain for something that has happened in your life, for not being able to reciprocate a feeling, for a scar that has not healed yet, for the too much effort you are putting in keeping things under your will, for the lack of rest and tranquillity.

If you find the courage to speak of fear and pain, you immediately take their power away. Your relationships will benefit from it greatly.

The metrics that fit

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We obsess over the short term.

Will this title get me more clicks?

Will this project get me the promotion?

Will this topic be on the test?

Will this cover letter get me the job?

And perhaps we should spend more effort understanding if we are measuring the metrics that better fit. Is clicks what I really want? Is that promotions truly good for me? Am I in this for the piece of paper only? Do I just want a job?

If you don’t take a wider perspective, it’s going to be one chase after the other, one hustle after the other, one hack after the other. Of course you are exhausted.

Not everything

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Not everything is urgent. Not everything is important. Not everything is newsworthy, and not everything that is newsworthy is a tragedy. Not everything requires your attention. Not everything demands that you change your plans. Not everything is a debate in search of a winner. Not everything is worth your time.

When we lose the ability to look at things with perspective, the world becomes flat.