Category: culture

Resentment

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What good does your resentment do?

Perhaps you have been treated unfairly. Perhaps you did truly deserve that promotion. Perhaps that person in your team is really after you. Perhaps everyone should really buy into your idea. Perhaps you do deserve more.

And what good does it do to act up because of that? How closer does that take you to your objectives?

Resentment is bad not because others might not deserve it – they usually don’t. Resentment is bad because it is not efficient.

The moment you feel it, do acknowledge it, do talk about it, and then do move on.

Own your meetings

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When you send an invite for a meeting, you make two promises to those invited.

  1. You promise that you will be respecting the timing of the meeting – the time the meeting will start, the time allocated to the different items in the agenda, the time the meeting is supposed to end.
  2. You promise that you will be prepared to deliver on the agenda, or that those presenting/discussing will have the information they need to prepare to deliver on the agenda.

Many meetings fail because they are considered a way to come together and express opinions, thoughts, ideas. Some might be, but even in that case it is a responsibility of the organizer to manage a right pace to the conversation, to send out information that can help drive the conversation, and in general to be the owner of the conversation.

If there is one gift you feel like giving to your colleagues in 2022, let it be this one.

Own your own meetings.

Insecurity

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We lash out at people, we judge, we confine, we define, we spend most of our days commenting and evaluating what others do. And the truth is, we do not know any better.

It is perhaps our insecurity that makes us feel so certain when it comes to others.

Stand out

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One of the things that will make you stand out most in business (and not only) is to close the circle on your promises.

This is true for individual contributors, teams, departments, and organizations as a whole.

If you promise something that you know you can’t deliver, or that you consistently don’t deliver over a period of time, the promise is most likely a way for you to get out of a difficult conversation, an awkward moment, a temporary discomfort.

It is not worth it.

Say only what you know you’ll do. And if you end up not doing it, give a reason and follow up.

When you meet your commitments, you build trust, gain confidence — look, you really can do it! — and grow the kind of backbone needed to say no when you truly can’t take something on.

Whitney Johnson, You Have to Stop Canceling and Rescheduling Things. Really.

Where you start from

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When plans fail, it might be because you have not carefully considered the initial situation.

Leaps happen, but it is much more common to have things develop slowly, thanks to incremental and non-linear progresses.

And so, a great way to start a plan is to take a careful look at where you start from. What resources you have available. What people around you want. What initial wins you can get to start momentum. What it is that you can realistically achieve without changing most of what is going on.

You might know where you want it all to end, but if you start there, that is little more than wishful thinking. Taking little steps is the surest way to achieve success.

Merry Christmas.