When you are rejected, the opportunity is not in “better luck next time”, or “it’s their loss”, or “you are better than this”.

The opportunity is in taking a step back and checking where it hurts.

Are you disappointed because you cannot pay the next bill or because you were enjoying what you were doing? Because you have to cancel your next vacation or because you genuinely thought you were delivering your best job? Because you have to face the questions of family and friends or because you felt for once you had something to give to a cause?

When we take the time to check where it hurts, we can more easily spot what is next. And it might be something utterly surprising.