What is your predominant status?
Anger. “You can’t, you shan’t”. This is the status of fear, of control, of walls to be built, of closed doors and burnt down bridges, of punishment, of arrogance, of self-blindness, of others as a tool to achieve your goals.
Regret. “I could, I should”. This is the status of incompleteness, of insatisfaction, of “if only”, of constant research of something you have already achieved, of blaming the circumstances, of not going beyond because you don’t know what’s behind.
Judgement. “They could’ve, they should’ve”. This is the status of gossip, of spreading mean words, of thinking ourselves better than others, of looking outside rather than inside, of being stuck, of never getting along with anybody.
Empowerement. “We can, we shall”. This is the status of leaders, of knowing about the possibilities, of not letting go to desperation even if you do not know the path, of getting other together around a dream, of looking where others can go and not where they are now.
All are possible, and different circumstances might make us prefer one or the other. Yet eventually you’ll have to start thinking about your legacy, and double down on what you want to leave behind.