Why are things the way they are?

This is a question we often fail to ask. Yet it is so important to address that before we even attempt change.

Is there something I am not seeing? Is the current situation serving somebody’s purpose? What would the reaction be if I would change that? What is the type of behaviour I should expect once the change has been implemented? Have I talked and listened to people that are involved? Did I consider the different aspects that have contributed in building the context?

Clearly, it is a thin line between asking and remaining stuck. We need to know when we have enough information to take a considerate decision about moving forward (or not). And asking that question will help us being more thoughtful and kind towards those who will see the change as a threat.