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Overcompensating

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It’s tempting to set up a general rule to avoid a nuisance that is due to a few negative experiences. The problem is that the rule does not consider the vast majority of experiences that are positive, and therefore it ends up fixing an issue that, in most cases, is not an issue.

That’s the case of the employer setting up very rigid working hours because two people (out of tens or hundreds of employees) usually start working after lunch. What happens the next an employee is 10 minutes late? What if it’s their first time?

Overcompensating is rarely a good idea.

No need to be alone

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Find that person who is always supporting, who cheers for you no matter what, who wants your success more than their own, who is critical with kindness, whom you genuinely enjoy talking to.

And once you have found them, do not fear asking for their help.

There’s no need to be alone in your journey.

The superior companion

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If you fall in love with an outcome, you will never notice that the world around you is moving, that the context is ever changing, and that the outcome, in the end, does not provide that sense of reward you had anticipated.

If instead you fall in love with the journey, you are in the present, here and now. You see the changes, you notice the details, you are awake and ready, you have a place to fall back to when the unexpected becomes reality.

The journey is just a superior companion.

Within you

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When you scream, scratch, offend, shut down, retort, bite, barricade, wound.

That’s all about you, isn’t it?

It’s not the situation, the others in the room, your boss, your partner, your kids.

It’s something deep down within you.

And when you are calm, the most you can do is go and search for it, label it, put it to rest.

It will be easier the following time.

Turn the narrative around

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A negative turn of events is not inherently bad. A positive turn of events is not inherently good.

You ought to be able to see the good in the bad as well as the bad in the good. Not to be detached from reality. Not to be problem child or the naïve dreamer. Not to stay away from grief and joy at all costs. But to be able to appreciate the power that you have to turn the narrative around.