Tag: values

Inquisitive

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Every flaw you see in the world.

Every error message for any software, every bug that gets reported, every overly bureaucratic process, every mistake that gets you infuriated.

It is the product of the work of somebody.

And of course, sometimes it was a poor job, sometimes you simply have to go and fix things. But other times instead – most of the times – there are reasons why things work in a certain way and a person who is proud for having found a way to create something that was not there before.

If we are able to step out of our anger and take an inquisitive approach, we might save time and relationships. And we might make it so that the next time, that person, will be even more motivated to take the initiative.

Walls

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We only see our side of the story.

That’s why when we go to someone with something that’s important for us, that becomes urgent.

That’s why when we read through an email we only notice the parts that confirm what we already know.

That’s why when we find new evidence we are sure that’s the one that will convince everybody.

And that’s also why we should be extremely careful when giving judgements, passing sentences, and building walls.

The target is to be convinced (of your values, your purpose, your views) and open (to other perspectives and versions) at the same time.

Can you do that?

Easy and difficult

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Registering for an online class is easy, actually attending is difficult.

Subscribing to a newsletter is easy, actually reading it with regularity is difficult.

Downloading an eBook is easy, actually taking learnings from it is difficult.

Signing up for a free trial is easy, actually implementing the tool in your team’s routine is difficult.

Making an appointment online is easy, actually showing up is difficult.

The point is that we are more and more used to take reactive actions that actually demand a proactive change. In our behaviour, in our schedule, in our focus.

From our point of view, it’s easy to mistake this with busyness and activity. From the content provider’s point of view, it’s easy to mistake this with success.

Us and them need to remember that there is a very limited amount of resources for difficult.

The overall journey

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Are you proud of your overall journey, so far?

That is to say, if you look back at some crucial points in your timeline, do you have a narrative to bind them together in a way that makes you proud?

Forget about the latest missteps, the most recent failure, the bad period, the negative feedback, the missed goal. Keep your eyes, instead, on the overall journey.

Are you proud of it?

Personal and personally

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There is a thin difference between making it personal and taking it personally.

When you make something personal it’s a sign that you care about it. It means that, whatever the outcome will be, it will along a part of you. It’s about giving a shape to something that would not be the same were you not involved. It’s affirming your identity through your work.

When you take something personally, on the other hand, it’s a sign that you care about you. You are assuming that you are the focus on the conversation, which is perfectly normal to assume, but is often untrue. It’s about taking a part of something that is going on to justify your behaviour. It’s affirming your identity through the work of others.

It’s a thin difference and an important one.