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Resentment

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What good does your resentment do?

Perhaps you have been treated unfairly. Perhaps you did truly deserve that promotion. Perhaps that person in your team is really after you. Perhaps everyone should really buy into your idea. Perhaps you do deserve more.

And what good does it do to act up because of that? How closer does that take you to your objectives?

Resentment is bad not because others might not deserve it – they usually don’t. Resentment is bad because it is not efficient.

The moment you feel it, do acknowledge it, do talk about it, and then do move on.

Make a resolution for today

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If you are approaching the end of the year with some resolutions you wish to make, here is a tip that’s going to save you some hassle.

Start today.

There is no magical power in the beginning of a new year, no cleaner slate, to strength or power.

Start earlier instead, don’t let the resolution go stale in your mind, don’t lose the effect of the novelty, don’t let it sink before it lifts you.

Start today.

Three reasons to write things down

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Write it down as soon as it comes to you.

When thinking of a new idea, something to add to your website, an activity you would like to try, a way to approach a difficult conversation. Write it down. As writing it down will serve three purposes.

First, you will remember it. If you keep it in your mind, it’s probably going to get lost among other things you think of, you do, you listen to, you read.

Second, you will crystallize it. It’s probably just informal and wild in your mind, and when you put it on paper (or on screen), you are forced to make sense of it, to give it shape, to tame it and make it real.

Third, you will prioritize it. Not all things you’ll write down will be worth pursuing, and therefore you will have the clarity to understand what you will take forward.

Stand out

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One of the things that will make you stand out most in business (and not only) is to close the circle on your promises.

This is true for individual contributors, teams, departments, and organizations as a whole.

If you promise something that you know you can’t deliver, or that you consistently don’t deliver over a period of time, the promise is most likely a way for you to get out of a difficult conversation, an awkward moment, a temporary discomfort.

It is not worth it.

Say only what you know you’ll do. And if you end up not doing it, give a reason and follow up.

When you meet your commitments, you build trust, gain confidence — look, you really can do it! — and grow the kind of backbone needed to say no when you truly can’t take something on.

Whitney Johnson, You Have to Stop Canceling and Rescheduling Things. Really.

Where you start from

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When plans fail, it might be because you have not carefully considered the initial situation.

Leaps happen, but it is much more common to have things develop slowly, thanks to incremental and non-linear progresses.

And so, a great way to start a plan is to take a careful look at where you start from. What resources you have available. What people around you want. What initial wins you can get to start momentum. What it is that you can realistically achieve without changing most of what is going on.

You might know where you want it all to end, but if you start there, that is little more than wishful thinking. Taking little steps is the surest way to achieve success.

Merry Christmas.