Tag: relationships

A step back

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The fact you do not have all the necessary skills to do something you have been chosen to do can be a reason why, for a certain period, you cannot perform at your best.

But you have to make sure it does not turn into an excuse.

Being chosen is a responsibility, and you have to own it. It’s ok to leap towards something you are not perfectly confident about, that’s actually the very same idea behind leaping. Then, you have to consciously make the effort to fill the gap. So that, when you look back, the leap does not look as scary as it once did.

If for a long time you find yourself in a position for which you cannot fulfill all the duties, that makes you feel uncomfortable, for which others are demanding things you are not equipped to deliver, it is ok to take a step back.

Even if the one who chose you did not notice.

Especially if the one who chose you did not notice.

When feeling down

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When you are having a tough period, double down on your practices.

Whether it’s meditation, writing, running, working, helping, or any other. Being consistent with what makes you feel good, with what gives you a sense of accomplishment, is even more important when there’s something that deeply troubles or bothers you.

And by the way, the best moment to start a practice is today.

The experience

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If there’s one thing that everybody in marketing agrees on is that to effectively market a product or service you should not talk about that product or service.

And if you look around, you know that very few practice what they preach.

This video from Apple is something to aspire to.

There’s loads of products, actually there’s virtually no frame that does not feature an Apple device or solution (I stopped counting at 25 shots).

But it is not about the products.

It’s about the transformation that the product can produce in the world. It’s a story about taking a piece of paper and translating that idea into something concrete and worth presenting. It’s about the excitement, the fear, the tiredness, the anxiety, the juggling, the mistakes, the rebirths, the preparedness and the unpreparedness, the unsecurity, the will to make things happen.

Apple would be entitled, more than many others, to spend hours talking about their technology, their features, their apps, their ecosystem. But they understand that’s useless.

What matters is the experience. That’s what this ad is.

A different decision

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Our experience dictates how we are going to react to what happens around us.

A look, a word, a smile, or the lack of them. A failure, a comment, a blank page, a missed opportunity, a bad day, a mistake, a moment of anger, a lack of control, a fall into a negative habit, an uncontrollable impulse to do something that’s going to hurt us and others. All of this, and much more, can trigger distructive loops that we helplessly follow despite them being well-known and familiar. We spiral down.

In this situation, it takes effort to get back control. It takes presence, awareness, will. And when we have that, it is possible, in the moment, to make a different decision.

To answer an insult with kindness.

To see a failure as an opportunity.

To approach the moment of anger as temporary.

To interpret the laughs as unrelated to your worth.

To counter detachment with passion and warmth.

It’s a quality that can be trained, and the reward is having a spectrum of possibilities to respond to what goes on around you.

It’s worth a try.

Miniscule

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There’s so many miniscule things we allow to much power to.

Our working day could be disrupted because we are asked to give a 10-minutes presentation in front of the whole company.

Our self worth could be jeopardized because somebody, caught up in their thoughts, has treated us unfairly or given us a harsh response.

Our self esteem could disentegrate because a person we have never met or talked to before is telling us they do not like our work.

Our relationship could go through a rough couple of weeks because our dearest one didn’t have time to answer our message the other day.

Putting things in perspective, relating them to the greater scheme of things, is a necessary skill for anybody who wants to make a change. And this question is still very powerful to achieve just this.