Allocation

How much of your serenity, tranquillity, ease, peace of mind, joy comes from work, family, friends, me-time, or something else?

It’s a difficult question that probably leads to even more challenging answers. But by understanding that, we could probably better allocate time, resources, concerns, stress, stakes.

One example. If family time is what gives you strength, why worrying so much about losing that particular job, to the point you are making family time less pleasant?

New and old

What will the new year bring?

The end of the year is not an eraser. Just like you do not become immediately wise and adult the day you turn 18 (or 21), the new year will not give you a new you, free of old fears, uncertainties, pains, and problems.

So, the question really is: are you ready to handle all of that in 2023, and perhaps make something out of it?

If the answer is no, there is your new year resolution.

Contagious

The surest way to get ahead is to be kind.

Not because it is easy, it is incredibly difficult most of the time. Not because it is immediate, in fact it is mainly long term. Not because it is tangible, it’s mostly about practice and belief. Not because it is popular, there are not many business books who praise kindness over hustle. Not because it is visible, mostly it is about standing in the back of the stage.

But because it is contagious.

Kindness spreads, and if you start pouring some around, everyone will be better off.

Starting with you.

All year round

Perhaps it’s because it’s Christmas. Perhaps somebody has done something nice for you. Perhaps you have just gotten an unexpected praise, or a long-waited message. Perhaps it’s the energy you are getting from having finally started that project you have been wondering about for so long. Perhaps it’s your family, your friends, your loved one. Or perhaps it’s just because that’s who you are, and you have always known it.

But if you got in the mindset of giving these days, if you are being kind and helpful, if you are saying “I see your point” and “That is interesting” more often than “You are wrong” and “That is stupid”, then just remember that there is no reason why you should not practice that all year round. Even when things are tough. Particularly when things are tough.

Merry Christmas.

Deep inside

What we do is always a manifestation of something deep we feel inside.

When we shout, it might be because we got scared.

When we hit somebody, it might be because we feel insecure.

When we say something mean, it might be because we got treated unfairly.

That’s an explanation of course, but it should not be an excuse. We need to identify what’s deep inside, and tackle it with all our possible resources, because it’s difficult to get rid of the behavior if the feeling is still there.