Losing

How quickly can you get out of an argument?

How quickly can you say, “it does not matter”, and forget about it.

How quickly can you say, “you might be right”, and shift your perspective.

How quickly can you say, “we don’t agree”, and proceed together.

How quickly can you say, “that’s alright”, and put the difference out of your mind.

Just a reminder that no matter how hard you try, you can’t win an argument.

Let the right one in

What you want in life is to find those who see where you are going, your potential, your true self.

Many see where you have been, what you did wrong, where you failed, your shortcomings, your missteps, your fragility. You are the first one to see all of that and make it the focus of everything you do.

Someone who can go beyond that and still cheer for you is precious.

For a few seconds Oskar saw through Eli’s eyes. And what he saw was…himself. Only much better, more handsome, stronger than what he thought of himself. Seen with love.

John Lindqvist, Let The Right One In

What’s keeping your team?

What’s keeping you from achieving more, being more motivated, completing that task or project?

Each one of us will have their own answer, but in an organisation, the most common answer must be meetings.

Meetings without an agenda and a list of actions to follow up with.

Meetings that are updates.

Meetings that should have been an email or a Slack message.

Meetings to give feedback on a piece of work you have never seen before.

Meetings that are workshops that aim at fixing a problem with participants who have no idea what the problem is, let alone the skill set to fix it.

If you are a manager of people, your first responsibility should be to rid their calendars of meetings.

Funnels

You meet a lot of people, get acquainted with some of them, befriend a few, date some, and marry one.

You apply to loads of jobs, interview for some of them, get to the last stage with a few, get two or three offers, and accept one.

You get to try a lot of different things, enjoy some of them, succeed at a few, and master one.

You talk to a wide audience, get through to some of it, really resonate with a few, and influence one.

Many activities in life work like a funnel.

And when you get to the one, that’s just the time when it’s time to start all over again.