The inner critic

If you can’t give credit to yourself, how do you expect to give credit to others?

If you can’t be compassionate with your feelings, give yourself room to think, appreciate what you have achieved and get excited for what comes next. How can you do all that for others?

All your world wants is for you to love yourself.

Practice praising

We often found ourselves wanting to express appreciation for a colleague, our partner, our kids. Yet it seems to be so difficult to go beyond some generic remarks.

Practice praising and you will be rewarded with happiness and emotion all around you.

Start with someone you feel safe with and expand.

Start with just a few genuine words and expand.

Start doing it once a week and expand.

Soon you will realize that it is much softer to live in a world where praise is common.

Mismatch

What’s the impression you leave on those who are moving on?

What will your churned customer say about the service they got?

What will the exiting employee say about your company’s culture?

What will your colleague say as they transition to the new project?

Clearly, a mismatch emerged at some point. And the way you manage that does matter.

Sit and listen

Listening truly is the only skill you need.

And if you are in a position of power, you need it twice as much.

A grateful list

When your mind goes to a bad place, focusing on all negative things, feeling as if every event is against you. Try to name one thing you are genuinely grateful for, or happy for. Then continue working on that list.

It might prove challenging at first, yet it works.

What we perceive is often not what is happening. We need to train to make the distinction.