Two strong recommendations if you are into podcasts and leadership.
The Look and Sound of Leadership, by Tom Henschel.
Coaching for Leaders, by Dave Stachowiak.
They ship respectively monthly and weekly, and they are full of interesting insights and suggestions on how to be a modern leader.
If you want to start from somewhere, this one is a beautiful conversation about how poor we are at listening and what we can achieve by improving such basic skill.
In average, a person would speak about 150 words a minute. Yet in their mind, they can think up to 900 words a minute. If we stop at hearing the first thing a person says, there’s a huge chance we do not really hear what they wanted to actually express.Oscar Trimboli
We have all had that feeling of not being able to sufficiently elaborate on our thoughts. We can get better at capturing our ideas, and still the role of the listener, particularly when in a position of power, is enabling our ability to clarify what we want to express and make us say it out loud.
And as a complement on the topic, this other one episode goes into some details about what we can do to facilitate and stimulate conversations. The key is being able to formulate good, open questions that give the other space to reflect and open up.
I hope you enjoy.
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