Ready to go

For how long will you sit on the bench, waiting for someone to pick you, to give you instructions, to confirm your worth?

Life’s not a game with a clearly delimited field, written rules, and a given amount of players.

You are already warmed up and ready to go.

Just take the first step.

Give and build

Do you give trust or do you build trust?

The answer is clearly yes.

Trust is something you have to give and that needs building and strengthening day after day.

And for both aspects of trust you need actions, not words.

It goes away

Most things last between a few seconds and a few minutes.

Then, we make them linger in the form of thoughts, feelings, desires, fears, preoccupations, so they become a central part of our life and drive our behavior.

Next time you feel angry, bored, worried, nervous, awkward, disappointed, try and sit with it without doing nothing. Nothing at all.

You’ll be surprised by how quickly that goes away.

Onto the next one.

Clouds and sun

When the sky is cloudy, is the sun still there?

That’s a powerful lesson by Daniel Sá Nogueira, coach and trainer.

That is to say, when you have problems and life seems grim, can you still be happy? Problems are problems, and happiness is happiness. They are separate things, and we should try to not mix them. And when we succeed, we will find ourselves pondering our problems while being, at the same time, happy.

Say it

Who can you say it to?

Who can you talk to about the pain you are feeling, the challenge you are going through, the anxiety, the lack of focus, the impossibility to achieve anything meaningful in this particular period? Who can you say that to?

There’s always somebody you can talk to about how you are today and why it is not great.

And if there’s nobody, at least say it to those who are affected by it.

It’s fair for them. And it’s fair for you.