Tag: empathy

60 seconds

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What would happen if we could wait?

Before judging our neighbor who is still up at 4am. Before shouting at our kids who are trying to figure out something complex. Before sharing the advice nobody has asked for. Before answering to the instant message of somebody who is dealing with their own challenges. Before going on a rant about something we have misread in a conversation. Before clicking the comment box to leave some vitriolic words for somebody who does not share our worldview. Before beating ourselves up for not achieving what we so desperately wanted. Before rage quitting the place we have invested so much into. Before following that shiny little object that is going to take away from our lives.

If only we could wait 60 seconds, what would happen instead?

Stories are ideals

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The stories we tell others, the ones we use to buy people into our cause, to inspire action, to convince buyers that our brand is better, to present ourselves and the work we do.

They are not lies.

They are ideals waiting for an audience.

Behind change

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What moves the change you seek to make?

Anger, frustration, revenge, self-affirmation, fear. It is human to feel all that. Yet, while they are great fire to start the fuse, it’s better to move past them as the explosion approaches, else they will spread.

Empathy, kindness, joy, selflessness, care. They are much slower to burn, more complicated to find and express. Yet, when they reach the core, that’s the type of enthusiasm that sticks and scales.

There will never be enough of that.

What we’d like

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How would you like others to treat you?

If you are having a bad day, and still need to go out to buy some groceries. You just grab the first clothes you can find and don’t worry about your hair. What would you like others to say?

If you are having a tough period, and at work you can only do the bare minimum. You avoid coffee breaks as you do not want to talk to anybody, you delay your lunch break to grab a quick bite by yourself. How would you like others to talk about you?

If you are not answering that message because it would mean you finally need to have that difficult conversation you have postponed for so long. What would you like others to call you?

The next time we reach for an easy judgement, let’s keep in mind what we’d like others to do when it’s our turn.

Nice and rude

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Both nice and rude are roadblocks to change.

One because it hides a truth, the other because it distracts from it.

Being in the middle is worth the effort.