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Making sense

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It doesn’t make any sense.

But seeking sense in what happens around us is a pointless exercise. It means you are trying to explain with reason something that goes beyond it. Feelings, moments, circumstances, relationships. Seeking sense is a rigid activity that aims at fitting the world into familiar boxes.

A better thing to try is seeking purpose. Purpose is the way you connect the dots. It is loose by nature, and it adapts to time and events. Seeking purpose is a flexible activity that aims at shaping your story into the world around you.

The next meeting

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The outcome of your next meeting is going to be dependent on the following much more than it will be on your communication and argumentation skills.

  • Whether you are usually the one who gives others work to do or the one who takes work away from other people’s shoulders.
  • Whether you are usually the one who points fingers and assigns responsibilities or the one who brings others together to find a solution.
  • Whether you are usually the one who gossips behind other people’s back or the one who stops a gossip the first time they hear it.
  • Whether you are usually the one who does things at their own terms informing as little people as possible or the one who seeks involvement and promotes open communication.
  • Whether you are usually the one who is close to any type of feedback or criticism or the one who appreciates other people’s input and improves based on that.

Superpowers

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Three superpowers that are underestimated and that will get you through most things in life more easily. Plus, a tip on how to train them.

  1. Patience, that is the superpower to give things and people their time, without imposing your view or trying to bend them. You can train this with meditation.
  2. Listening, that is the ability to sit down in a conversation without thinking at what you will say or do next. You can train this by learning about coaching.
  3. Consistence, that is the ability to show up every day, even when no one is watching you or holding you accountable. You can train this with journaling.

Journey

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Sometimes a journey takes you where you wanted to go. And sometimes it takes you somewhere completely unexpected.

You might end up with people you like and enjoy, or with people you had never thought could be close to you. You might find yourself doing things that are familiar and that you know extremely well, or you might have to improvise and get out of your comfort zone. You might feel content and energetic, or you might realize you are lost and completely depleted.

Sometimes a journey takes you here, and sometimes it takes you there.

And one way or the other, you are always exactly where you are supposed to be.

At the beginning of a new journey.

Chatting and doing

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A chat can change it all.

It can change the frame, it can shift the narrative, it can move you forward. Instead of getting stuck in your head, seek a chat with a friend, a partner, a family member, a therapist, a coach, a colleague, a decent human being. Talking things through, even just talking about things, is powerful.

Of course, a chat cannot make things go away. So, seek a chat often, particularly in darker periods. And understand the importance of alternating the chatting with the doing.

It’s a fine art.