We want something, and when we get it we end up being deeply disappointed, unexpectedly scared, ultimately sad.
It might be because that thing is not what we wanted (or needed), but often it’s also because we do not have a clear idea of what the thing will entail. What skills are needed, what resources are necessary, what it actually means to be in the situation.
So, before we move onto the next big project – the new thing we really, really want now – let’s try to be with our achievement for a while. Let it sink in, get used to its reality, make it comfortable.
It might as well be that a bit of routine and practice is all we need next.
Three things that will not make you nervous, that will not scare you, that will not make you lose your sleep, that will not make you cry when you are rejected.
Things you don’t care about.
Things that are boring for you.
Things that have nothing to do with your purpose.
The point is that when are onto something that matters, you will feel anxiety and fear. That’s a sign of the stakes you are putting on that thing. What’s important is acknowledging the feelings, accepting where they come from, and finding ways to cope with them so that you can function and progress.
It’s never been about feeling confident and fearless. That’s a lie for Hollywood movies.