Your boss is not appreciating your work as they should. That colleague of yours never invites you to important meetings. Your family does not grant you enough time to cultivate your passion. The company you want to work for did not answer your application. Recruiters in your area are simply looking for a different profile. … Continue reading What is holding you back?
Category: self-help
Where it hurts
When you are rejected, the opportunity is not in "better luck next time", or "it's their loss", or "you are better than this". The opportunity is in taking a step back and checking where it hurts. Are you disappointed because you cannot pay the next bill or because you were enjoying what you were doing? … Continue reading Where it hurts
Here to stay
When somebody attacks you on some of the features that define you (your work, your values, your reputation), all you can do is continue nurturing those very same features. Going head-to-head can be fascinating in a sense. Demolishing the attacker's argument, pointing out all the good that you have done, bringing people onboard to testify … Continue reading Here to stay
Paths
There are many paths to success. And so all you have to do, day in and day out, is walk the path that leads where you want to go, in a way you are comfortable with and that aligns with your values and stories. If you let others define this for you, you are missing … Continue reading Paths
Worth accepting
The very same event can be described by those involved in very different ways. The same person can describe the same event in different ways at different times. Does this mean one version is the correct one and the others are wrong? When we describe what is happening to us we almost never stick to … Continue reading Worth accepting
Out of the room
It is difficult not to be bothered by a fly in a closed room. For as much as you force yourself into a state of flow, the fly will make its presence noticeable incessantly, and eventually you will be left with two options: either be distracted by it - shooing it away, having your pressure … Continue reading Out of the room
Superficial
How much information do we consume daily? And out of that, how much information do we understand, evaluate, put into our daily practice, and eventually use to improve? We have never been more exposed to facts, theories, news, practices, frameworks. We have never been more superficial.
Training empathy
We must say "I am sorry" and "thank you" as many time as it is needed to strip the expressions of any trace of shame, defeat, capitulation. We must say that often, over and over again. Even when we are not fully convinced we should. Even when the other person's behaviour does not fully justify … Continue reading Training empathy
Happiness
No one is responsible for your happiness but you. Not your boss, who is delaying your promotion until next year. Not your partner, who is distracted by their troubles and can't always give what you would like. Not your kids, who have been fussy lately, always trying to catch your attention as soon as you … Continue reading Happiness
The first time
We are rarely as nervous and preoccupied as when we attempt something for the first time. Yet, in principle most of us are ok with the idea of failure when trying something new. The first time is a learning opportunity, a chance to put in practice some of the theory we have read about, a … Continue reading The first time
