Year end

I know many are thinking about resolutions for the new year these days, I at least certainly am. I wrote something last year that might still be useful today.

And I would add one thing today, something that has become more and more important for me as time passed.

Be consistent – When your resolutions, put together, show some kind of pattern, a way of being that you aspire to, a trajectory you want to follow, that’s when they become deals you seal with your future self. It’s going to be much more difficult to break them.

Cover letters

There are four key elements to any cover letter, and they are often missing or misunderstood.

First, the appeal of the company. The question you are trying to answer is why do I want to work for this company?. You might not have a reason when you see the job ad, but you better find one soon. This require some research online. Look for stories that might resonate with who you are and what you stand for, or even for characteristics the company has that meet some of your outstanding experience. “I have heard a lot about company X”, or “I have always wanted to work for company Y” does not really cut it anymore. Basically anybody can claim the same, and you should start singalling uniquess from the very beginning.

Second, the passion for the role. The question you are trying to answer is what makes this position important for me?. Here is where you start telling about your passion for the field, about the times you have worked in the same role elsewhere and have excelled, about how you have tailored your curriculum to exactly arrive at this moment, applying for this position. Even if you are a new graduate, you probably have some passions or preferences for one field or another, and expessing them is always better than “I am just ok with any job you could offer me”.

Third, your experience. This is what most people get wrong. It’s not about making a list of places you have worked, roles you have covered, skills you have accumulated. There’s a CV for that. The question you are answering here is what have I done so far that matches the requirements listed in the job ad?. Many applicants preach to the wind, figuring that their experience would be good enough for most jobs. But actually, you want to look at the list of requirements carefully, think at what you have done so far (professionally, academically, personally, in order of importance), and see what you have learned that might be applicable in the role you are applying for. It will take a while, and you really have a chance to stand out in this section. It helps if you look at your career horizontally rather than vetically. Pick two, maximum three, relevant examples, and use a story format: “We had this problem at company X, we tried this and that, we eventually achieved a x% improvement in A, and this tought be the importance of B” (where B is what the target company is looking for).

Fourth, and last, the deabreakers. In this final section, you want to list things that are a must for you. “What could the company fail to provide that would make me change my mind about all of the above?”. Here is where you list availability to travel or relocate, salary requests, need to work remotely, and so on. If you have more than two or three items, carefully think if they are all _so_ important that you really want to point them out in the cover letter. Eventually, you do this to avoid a waste of time, but you also want to signal some sort of flexibility to further underscore that this role at this company is truly what you want.

Harmony

Harmony is rarely a first choice.

As humans, we are wired to seek for friction, to look at the world from our perspective, to burst when somebody does not agree, to focus on one negative even when it comes with one hundred positives. We never shy away from a challenge, and then we try to escape the distress that comes with it by crafting stories that point the finger or tell about how inadequate we are.

Harmony is almost never the first choice. Yet, it’s still a choice. One that requires effort, commitment, groundlessness, humbleness.

It needs to be chosen every day, until it becomes the only possible choice to move forward. Are you up for it?

Replenished

It’s Christmas.

A great time to say “thank you” to the person who is there for you, all the time.

To praise the colleague for their brilliant work.

To talk with a friend about what they will become.

To forgive the ones who have, inadvertently or not, hurt you.

To hold the dear ones and tell them about how lucky you are.

To start that project you have pushed back for too long.

To help somebody disentangle from negative thoughts.

To tell about kindness and how it spreads.

Of course, all of the above works any day of the year. But if it’s true we often need a symbol, today is the perfect day to give more than you receive. You will find yourself replenished.

Merry Christmas.

And thank you all for reading. It means the world to me.

Not one single line

The things you did in the past.

The people you have been around.

The way dear ones have treated you.

The level of education you have achieved.

The jobs you’ve had.

The knowledge you have accumulated.

The places you have visited.

The trauma you barely talk about.

The experiences you have shared with others.

The missing praises.

The undeserved rewards.

All we’ve been so far influences our behaviour, thoughts, feelings in the moment. And yet, they are not the moment. It’s a fundamental difference.

Life is not a straight line. It is not even one single line. You are not stuck on repeat, there’s actually plenty of choices on where to go next.