Sharing feelings is tough, uncomfortable, often untimely, and slow.
But when somebody comes to you with their feelings, all you have to do is be thankful that they think you are a person with whom it’s safe to share.
Don’t break the trust. Everything else can wait.
We are quick to forget where we have been. The fears we’ve had, the pain we suffered, the challenges we had to face, the corners we had to cut.
And in that tiny space between where we were and where we are now we build up the judgement for those who have yet to complete their journey.
If only we could extend a helping hand instead.
How often do plans only feature the place where you want things to end? How often do plans completely disregard the place where you are today, your current resources, your needs and wants, the requests of those involved?
A plan needs some solid basis to be taking you where you want to go.
Everyone wants to be liked. But there is a different between striving to be liked in the moment and striving to be liked in the end.
To be liked in the moment means that you are betting on your capacity to escape immediate evaluation. It’s about being erratic, leveraging every situation, and since people talk, caring about short-term benefit.
To be liked in the end means that you are betting on the capacity of people to judge by themselves. It’s about consistency, authenticity, and long term.
So, the choice is not really between wanting to be liked and not wanting to be liked.
It’s a choice between now and forever.
Three things to do in order to establish emotional and professional safety in a moment of crisis at work.
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