It is very easy to project
That’s what most of us do most of the time, as a shortcut to get those things out of the way. The problem is, other people care, and relationships get increasingly challenging when projecting becomes an habit.
One way to tackle this, is stop considering what we feel as negative (or positive).
Feelings can help us understand some important pieces about the world we leave in and our place in it. We should keep them close instead of ditching them, even when they hurt. Eventually, they’ll turn into something else.
They are not who we are, and certainly they are not who others around us are.