Taking responsibility is important, and it shouldn’t mean we have to beat ourselves up.
Not beating ourselves up is wonderful, and it shouldn’t mean we don’t have to take responsibility.
There’s a sweet spot we are looking for here.
It’s the point at which we understand that things happening are never fully one’s fault, we recognize that we had a role in making the situation what it is, and we attempt to move forward with a small or big improvement. Possibly, bringing the others involved along with us on the same path.