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Blow thoughts away

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A thought is just a thought.

It comes and goes. It might come back, and certainly it will go away once more.

The challenge is that often we take that thought and build our reality around it. That person is mean to mean. Nobody wants me. I am not good enough. And by doing that, we twist our reality to match the thought. The thought will stay and we become conditioned by it.

Blow thoughts away, particularly the negative, devious, perverse, mean ones. They are just thoughts, until you build them into something bigger.

Comfort

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You know what you have to do, and there are three reasons why you are not doing it.

  1. You’ve never done it before
  2. You are not motivated
  3. You don’t have the skills

Some of that might be real, some of that might just be tricks your mind plays to keep you within your comfort zone, free from risks and safe.

But you know what you have to do.

So, understand what is keeping you from doing it and work around it.

Doing and not doing

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Doing and not doing.

That’s where the difference is between success and failure.

It’s not quality and quantity.

It’s not perfection and sloppiness.

It’s not expertise and incompetence.

It’s not 1,000 and 1 (of whatever you want to look at).

It’s doing and not doing. That’s what sets us apart.

Caution does not spread

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It might be that everyone is out there waiting for you to come out with the new feature. Perhaps your detractors are just waiting for you to trip and your competitors can’t wait to see the sneak peek of your new product. Somebody for sure has also set an alert to track everything that you are doing and beat you to it.

Or maybe not.

The point is that the time you spend worrying about all these unlikely scenarios – let’s accept it, in most cases we are not that important – is time you could invest to put your work out there and get people excited about it.

Caution does not spread.

Winning mentality

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When we lose, it’s easy to play down the whole situation.

It was not so important after all.

Others were lucky.

That single decision was unfair and really cut my chances.

I did not give my best, but if I would have..

The context was heavily against me.

It’s a defence mechanism that puts space between us and the failure so that we don’t feel like such. And it tells of a tendency to see loss as failure.

Of course, if we want to avoid losing more in the future, we’d be better off by owning the loss and trying to see what went wrong. What it is that is under our control and that we can do better.

That’s the sign of a winning mentality.