You do not have to manage change to make it happen.
You can still make a decision and expect everyone to act accordingly.
You can drift through the days and wait for something to come your way.
You can stand on the side and take credit for whatever success will come.
You do not have to manage change, but when you manage change you make it a shared experience. A shared decision, a shared opportunity, a shared outcome. It is only by managing change that you can make a long-term impact.
Saying no is a sign of commitment.
When you know that what you are doing matters, you want to dedicate to it as much time and energy as possible. And you can only do that if you have developed the capacity to resist alternatives, to refuse help, to reject opportunities.
Saying no is saying you are on the right path.
Eventually, you will have to make peace with the version of yourself you will never be.
With your childhood dreams. With what your family wanted for you. With what you never liked and got inculcated with anyway simply because you were born there. With what has changed and will not come back.
It’s a huge challenge, probably one of the biggest one you’ll face.
What you are not, you simply are not.
If someone would look at you now, what would they see?
If they would check on you while you are working, relaxing, exercising, parenting, leading, what feeling would they be left with?
If they would have a chance to take a peek at you when no one else is watching, what would they learn?
This is the compassionate responsibility to try and be your better self at all times, it is not the merciless burden that makes you give up.
And it does matter.
Most of what we do goes unnoticed.
Good and bad not always get rewarded or sanctioned as we are used to see in novels and movies. And we are often alone dealing with what follows.
Not only we are main characters to our own movie, we are also the sole interested audience.
Can you accept that?
You've got this 