Find your pace

When your breath is short, your legs heavy, your mind numb, your motivation low, there is really no reason why you should muscle through the situation.

The best thing you can do is slow down, stop even, take a few deep breaths, and find your own pace.

There is nothing more important than you living your life at a pace you can sustain. Not even an olympic medal.

Embellishment

How many tools are you going to try before accepting that there is something deeper that needs to be addressed?

How many platforms will you sign up for before accepting that you can write also on a piece of paper?

How many videos will you consume still before accepting that it is not only by watching others performing that you will improve your skills?

How many people will you have to hire before accepting that it is the lack of a system that’s hindering your growth?

How many courses are you going to enroll for before accepting that you can learn by doing, for free, every day?

How many applications will you have to send it before accepting that it is your story you have to work on?

First get the basics in place, then worry about the embellishments.

We too often get stuck pretending that it works the other way around.

The recipe

What is the thing you want to absolutely achieve? Tomorrow, this week, this month, this year.

What is it that you need to do to make it happen? Make a list.

Go through the list, one point at a time, and do not shift your focus until the list is done. Do rest, relax, take breaks. Particularly if the list is long. But do not invest energy, time, and meaningful work on a new shiny object.

Once you are done, reassess and celebrate the work you have done.

That’s it.

Celebrate failure

Celebrate even when you fail.

Even when you end up fourth, and only the first three get a medal.

Write a story that makes you a winner.

Think of a way to elevate your performance.

Build the stepping stone for your future success.

Adam Ondra, 4th place in Speed Climbing @Tokyo Olympics
(Photo: Jess Talley, Jon Glassberg/Louder Than 11)

Self-sabotage

Sometimes a situation just turns out to have the worst possible outcome, and you could have told from the beginning.

You had spotted the discomfort in approaching it, the signals, the opposition of others. You had noticed that nothing was going the way it was supposed to. You had called it difficult, wrong, impossible. You had said many times you were giving it your best, and despite that, you could not see any improvement. You had wanted to quit and give up, in different occasions, and yet stayed in it until the very, inevitable, tragic ending.

This is self-sabotaging.