Time to heal

You need to give wounds proper time to heal.

Of course, you want to get back to work. Of course, you want people to accept your point of view and get back to their tasks. Of course, you are all working on something bigger and the time spent grieving is time not spent pursuing a new opportunity.

But wounds do not heal as fast as you’d want them to. People do not heal as fast as you’d want them to. You do not heal as fast as you’d want to.

Give it time. And in the process, do listen. You will learn something about wounds, people, and yourself.

Getting ready for the next wound.

Stories over numbers

Numbers come after stories, and stories others can relate to come after stories we can relate to.

We like to think of the world as a rational place, where people make decisions based on a set of available information. Of course, that is far from what we experience every day.

If you want to inspire action you need to remind this.

About goals

There are two things, I believe, you really to need to highlight when leading a team.

Number 1 is that the person’s well-being, in whatever format that comes, is infinitely more important than any business goal and organisational achievement.

Number 2 is that goals, especially individual goals, are not a way to get rewarded or fired, but rather a way to challenge – how do we get there – and be challenged – what do you need to get there.

The way you, as a leader, navigate setting goals and delivering on them is 99% of how your team will feel about them.

Joy and success

Joy comes from doing something you would do independently of the outcome.

Success – i.e., the outcome – comes from sticking with that something for long enough.

Simple, not easy.

Blessings

Mistakes are a blessing.

If you have the patience to acknowledge them, accept them, analyse them, and discuss them, they are the easiest and surest way to become better at what you are trying to do.