If you want people to listen to you, use their own agenda, their language, their motivators.
If you want people to act, show them yourself.
If you want people to change, help them reflect and find their way.
There’s this idea that bossing people around is effective. It’s only partially true. You might get people to listen, to act, to change by commanding them, but that’s never going to stick.
They are the heroes to their own story. At most, you can be the guide.
Record your thoughts. On video, audio only, no matter the equipment.
Write your thoughts. On a journal, a notepad, no matter how clearly.
Recording and writing your thoughts is a sure way to free space in your mind, to clarify your ideas, and to improve your skills when it comes to elaborate complex concepts.
Play with it. Do short form, long form, free form, scripted form. Try different things, repeat and confirm, change your mind, enjoy yourself.
And find the courage to hit publish, sooner rather than later.
P.S.: Perfect is an excuse.
PP.S.: Tools are also an excuse.
Relationships are hard work. All relationships.
That’s mainly because in a relationship we are asked to take something into consideration that we are incapable of understanding: the other party involved.
It takes a lot of work to just accept this simple fact. That understanding is not the basis of a relationship.
Caring is.
There have been studies before, and there will be more in the future. And this one is yet another confirmation that companies get most of employees motivation wrong.
What people seek is a sense of autonomy (I can choose the work I do), relatedness (I belong with my colleagues), and competence (I master what I do). If you’re not working to ensure your people get to experience these, you are missing out, and your company is just one of many.
Good luck!
The things you can learn to accept.
It’s unbelievable.
You are resilient and you can live every day learning to accept feelings, thoughts, situations that on paper you would never want in your life.
It helps to frame them in a narrative that serves your higher purpose. And it helps to remind yourself of that narrative at challenging times and at good times.
Once you have that, you are simply unstoppable.
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