Tag: trust

More and more and more

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It’s difficult to let people go where they want to go. It’s difficult in life and at work.

It’s difficult because since we were kids we have been told not to go there, not to do this, to just come here. It’s difficult because we see people going their own way as a threat to our own pursue and to our own self. It’s difficult because it is easy to look from the outside and recommend the absolute and perfect course of action. It’s difficult because we have been shown that limiting the possibilities is a way to protect, to shield, to even show we actually care.

It’s difficult. And we need to commit to doing it more and more and more.

Noticeable

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You don’t notice your kids growing. There is no day when they are noticeably taller than the day before, no moment when they are noticeably smarter than the moment before, and for most developments, there is no exact time when you can say “here is when that happened!”.

Yet, they grow. Sometimes you stop and look back at old pictures, and you wonder when that happened. But they grow. You think back at how clumsy they used to be on their bike and now they speed past you. They do grow. You realise that now they are going out with their friends on their own while they used to ask you to take them everywhere.

The point is, not all growth is noticeable.

Actually. There is almost no growth that is noticeable, no progress that is material in short spans of time, no achievement that happens from one day to the next.

Growth is a process.

It’s frustrating at times. But you can’t hurry it up.

Cherish it, instead.

You assume

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When you start thinking that someone is out to get you, that the decisions they are making are personal and against you, you are making a lot of self-centred assumptions in a split second.

You assume that they know of you.

You assume that they know what is good and bad for you.

You assume that they think of you when making their own decisions.

You assume that they understand the depths of your value and skills.

You assume that they prioritise your circumstances over theirs.

You assume that they care enough to actually bother.

You assume that they are the villain to your own personal script.

Of course, some of these assumptions might be on target. But even just making them, even though you do not know you are making them, consumes a lot of your energy and resources.

Assume instead that they are doing their best for themselves and for the interests they represent.

It almost never is personal. And even when it is, you are far better off assuming it is not.

In event of crisis

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If your company wants to write a public note about the current situation in Ukraine – or any other crisis for what matters -, make sure that falls into one of those two categories.

  • You are letting your audience know about something deeply impactful you are doing, or plan to do, that could change the situation for the better for a good portion of the people involved.
  • You are directing the attention of your audience towards someone or some other organisations that can actually do something deeply impactful and might need additional support.

And always remember, even at a time like this, silence is an option.

Stay strong.

As narrow as possible

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Frustration and discontent grow in the space between what you say you will do and what you actually do. In the space between how you say you feel and how you actually feel. In the space between what you say you value and what you actually value.

Keep that space as narrow as possible.

It’s the road to joy.