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Once again balanced

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When you are overwhelmed, it is OK to let go of one thing. And then two. And then three.

Of course, we all want to get everything done, and there are so many things that are important for us, for our dears, for our community, for our company. But you are not achieving more if you want to keep pushing when you are at your limit. You are just giving yourself, and everybody else, the illusion that things are progressing. So, cancel that meeting, skip the gym for the week, go for a take away instead of home cooking, spend half an hour longer in bed in the morning.

Until you are once again balanced.

Ground and arms

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Change is permanent.

And there are only two things you can do about it.

First, build a solid ground. That would be knowing yourself, your situation, your story, your purpose, your triggers, your strength. A solid ground is what will allow you to not take change personally.

Second, open your arms. That would be listening to others, embracing their fears, helping them with their agendas, navigating the situation together with them, establishing long-term relationships. Open arms is what will allow you to make your solid ground even more solid.

One thing you should never do about change, and that would be trying to control it.

Battles you are not supposed to win

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Not everything is a battle.

And not everything is a battle you are supposed to win.

Everyone is a main character to their own story. They have motives, ambitions, values, fears, faults. Just because they affirm those, it does not mean you are less valuable.

The sooner you accept this very difficult truth, the more at ease you will be with life.

Something you can control

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It’s not bad to be told that you’ve done a poor job, that you have played poorly in the last match, that your performance is below the expectations.

It does not have to become a personal affront or a way for you (and others) to determine the quality of your future.

Of course, it hurts. Because you have probably given it your all.

But the direction of the motion that comes out of negative feedback is something you can control.

The best you can hope for

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There is nothing more pointless than to act to please others.

To do things just because you hope that others will be happy with them. To show off your work just because you hope that others will appreciate it, like it, follow it. To share words of advice just because you hope that others will follow them and be happy and recognise your contribution.

Find the motivation within, be kind and fair, and accept that others will run with their lives to the best of their own circumstances.

That’s the best you can hope for.