Don’t tell others what you think they feel about you.
Do not second guess them.
Do not assign to them hidden motives.
Do not make yourself the main character in their own masterpiece.
Tell them what you feel about them instead.
Tag: trust
No matter what
I wanted to buy a shirt for my son. It was a red one, with one single word on it: “Uff!”. I said it was perfect for him, since he is always complaining and he is never happy with what he is given.
He ended up buying another shirt. An orange one with a dragon on it.
The point being, people rarely want to hear what you think is better for them, who you think they are, where they should or should not focus for their development.
Instead, they want to tell you about what they think. And they want you to find it in your heart to abandon your prejudices and support them no matter what.
Measuring habits
A way to measure habits is by how long the streak is.
Another way is by how easy it is to start a new one after you’ve taken a break.
Simple things
Do not complain about your privilege. As in, “I am busy”, “I have to deal with too much politics”, “I worked over the weekend”, and so on.
Do not bitch about peers and subordinates. As in, “This person is driving me mad”, “That guy is never doing their job”, “I never wanted to work with them”, and so on.
Do not undermine a plan that is not your favourite one. As in, “That was not my idea”, “We are going to do this instead”, “We will do it, but..”, and so on.
Simple things that every manager should be aware of.
The number
If the main goal of your job is a number. If there’s no larger purpose, no higher ambition, no bigger system. If when the goal is hit, the counter resets and you start from scratch. If you can do it all on your own, from anywhere, at anytime. If you not doing it, simply means that someone else will take over trying to reach the number.
Then, how long can it last?
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