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To mentor

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You do not have to be a master to mentor. You do not have to be the best at what you do, neither you need to be an expert in what you do. You might have a passion, but that is just a like most of the time. You might feel competent and knowledgeable, but if you are completely honest that’s probably not how you feel in most cases.

If you believe any of the above is necessary to mentor, you are telling yourself a false story, you are giving up to resistance, you are pushing back something you would genuinely benefit from.

To mentor, you merely need to have experience and to be willing to give it away.

And when that is the case, you can start mentoring now. You will get back everything you put in. And more.

Discipline and compassion

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I love how this article by Brad Stulberg sums up many of my thoughts and beliefs around practice and awareness.

The relationship between self-discipline and self-compassion is reciprocal. One feeds the other and we need to find a way to keep them in balance.

It’s the only way to avoid getting stuck.

It’s the only way to do meaningful work.

Doing is boring

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Doing is boring.

It comes after the excitement of ideation and brainstorming. It is way ahead of the sparkles and glitters of reveal and success. It is repetitive, often solitary, unsung, at times painful, mostly bland.

And that is precisely why many fail at it.

Showing up day after day to merely do is a trait one needs to train. Without that, we are jumping from one thing to the next. With that, we are setting ourselves apart from the mass.

Doing, just like life, is boring.

To achieve anything, you just have to get over this simple fact.

The greatest gift

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If there is only one thing you are going to dedicate more time to in the future, make it be listening.

Do not rush to tell your piece, learn to sit still with your assumptions and conclusions, give others the space to come up with their own version, accept that silence is not you giving power away.

Listen. Truly listen. To understand. To help the other understand.

It is the greatest gift of all.

Protect or build

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You can protect your name, your reputation, your prestige. Or you can build it.

Rarely you can do both at the same time.

Protecting is about public relations, networking, promising, giving speeches. It is a reactive game. It is about ensuring that what you do determines who you are, how others see you. It is trying to control the outcome, that you can’t really control.

Building is about doing. It is a proactive game. It is about ensuring that who you are determines what you do, day after day. It is fully mastering the input, that you can always control.

Choose carefully.