The only thing we have moderate control on is ourselves. What we do. How we react. The way we talk about the events of life. Who we spend time with, and where.
And yet, we spend an incredible amount of energy trying to guide what others think, the random events, what others will decide, and whether they want to spend time with us or not.
Focus on what is within reach.
Eventually, you will have to make peace with the version of yourself you will never be.
With your childhood dreams. With what your family wanted for you. With what you never liked and got inculcated with anyway simply because you were born there. With what has changed and will not come back.
It’s a huge challenge, probably one of the biggest one you’ll face.
What you are not, you simply are not.
Most of what we do goes unnoticed.
Good and bad not always get rewarded or sanctioned as we are used to see in novels and movies. And we are often alone dealing with what follows.
Not only we are main characters to our own movie, we are also the sole interested audience.
Can you accept that?
If you seek change, looking at what the person sitting next to you is doing won’t help much.
At best, it will make an easy excuse to use when you want to fall back to your old habit.
Go as far from the mean as you can, instead. Learn about what’s been tried a few times only, about what’s new, about what’s not been tested yet.
Seek outliers.
That’s the path to change.
Start from small.
A little thing that bothers you just a little. Something you want to change. Something you want to try. Something that’s been on your mind for a while.
Something small.
We often fail because we want to get to the end result right from the start.
We go on a diet, and we want the body we desire on week 1.
We start a blog, and we want an audience from day 1.
We land a new job, and we want to love it already on the first month.
We found a new company, and all we think about is to make it a unicorn.
Start from small instead. Break the big achievement down into small, if you need.
Small is your buddy.
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