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Easy or not

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“That’s something we can very easily do.”

Perhaps it’s true, but the point is not whether something is easy or not. The point is what’s happening that’s keeping people from doing it.

Is it a lack of clarity on what matters?

Is it that you are overreaching and micromanaging?

Is it a lack of competence or confidence?

Is it poor resources?

Is it overwhelming expectations?

People are not inherently lazy or irresponsible, so if something easy is not getting done, ask yourself what you can correct in your own doing, before starting to look outside and push the target farther away.

Unfulfillment

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There’s a time for praise and celebration, and there’s a time for requests, feedback, concern, criticism.

When the two get mixed, the enthusiasm quickly dies down and it just leaves a sense of unfulfillment and near-accomplishment.

Echo chamber

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Nobody wants to hear what you have to say.

Everybody wants to share what they have to say.

It might be a bit of an exaggeration, but if you want to be a leader, that’s a distinction you need to have very clear. One that you need to be able to navigate.

If you don’t, you’ll find yourself in a very limiting echo chamber.

Best self

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Your best self is not an absolute.

You can’t pretend to be at the same level of performance in all situations, under all life circumstances, whether you are relaxed or stressed, appreciated or diminished, content or sad.

So, you have to be able to look at what is the best self you can bring to the table today, right now. And you need to accept that it might be not as much as you (and others) would expect.

That’s a good step to build kindness towards yourself.

Start again

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Habits are broken all the time, and when that happens, you need to allow yourself to go back a few steps.

Progress is very rarely linear, and thinking that it is, might actually keep us from starting again a healthy habit we have just failed at for a while.

If you were used to run 10km a week and you have not done that for a month, would it make it easier to start again with 2km this week?

If you are used to meditate for 20 minutes a day and you have not done that for a month, would it make it easier to start again with 5 minutes today?

If you are used to write 10,000 words a week and you have not done that for a month, would it make it easier to start again with 5,000 this week?

We are not machines and we need to be able to cut ourselves some slack once in a while.